It's coming....

The 2008 Seattle International Film Festival is just around the corner...I have my first Box Office meeting tomorrow night, May 1st. The B.O. opens to members on May 8th and to the general public on May 11th. Opening night is May 22nd with the film, "Battle in Seattle" a narrative account of the WTO riots directed by the actor Stuart Townsend and starring Charlize Theron, Martin Henderson, Woody Harrelson, Ray Liotta, Michelle Rodriguez, Andre Benjamin, Channing Tatum and Connie Nielsen. It is expected that Townsend and his real-life partner Theron will be in attendance.

Go here for tickets to the Opening Gala and more info:
http://www.siff.net/presents/seriesDetail.aspx?FID=109

Little Britain invades Little America

David Walliams and Matt Lucas are in the U.S. to film an American installment of their cult hit sketch series, "Little Britain", to air on HBO. Here's Walliams as beloved transvestite, Emily Howard and Lucas in the background as a pasty cop. They're also set to reprise other favorite charactors like Vicki Pollard, fey Prime Ministerial assistant, Sebastian Love and Dafydd, "the only gay in the village" as well as create new characters, just for this series.

No word if Bubbles de Vere turns up...

I have two minds about this. Yes, these guys are funny and some of the characters are brilliant, but Little Britain is one of the worst perpetrators of the "Catchphrase School of Comedy", endlessly repeating the same characters in the same sketches saying the exact same catchphrases, over and over again. I'm guessing that the Little Britain duo of Walliams and Lucas has made about 10 times more money than the vastly more talented members of another British comedy team, The League of Gentlemen, whose plot based comedy doesn't lend itself as well to t-shirts and coffee mugs...

For more info, go here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=562917&in_page_id=1773&ito=1490

Quentin Crisp returns from the dead...

John Hurt is set to reprise his role as legendary, pioneer queer writer and bon vivant Quentin Crisp in the sequel to the acclaimed 1975 television production of "The Naked Civil Servant" which focused on the early years of Crisp living in Britain as a frank and open queer man. "An Englishman in New York" will focus on Crisp's life after the publication and fame of "The Naked Civil Servant" when he emigrated to New York and became a fixture of the downtown arts scene in the 1980's. Title of the show is from the Sting song which was written about the writer who acted with Sting in the film, "The Bride". Crisp died in New York in 1999 at the age of 90.

For anyone who ISN'T aware of Crisp and his writings, you're missing out on the work of a brilliant and fascinating literary stylist. Dryly witty and only slightly acerbic, he wrote several volumes of his memoirs and worked regularly as a movie reviewer in New York. His take on the films of the 80's and 90's is very, very funny and he isn't afraid to poke fun at movies he appears in, which is probably the healthiest way to look at the experience of making a film like "The Bride" with the likes of Sting and Jennifer Beals...

Filming for "Englishman" begins in August in London and New York.

Read more about it at: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/entertainment/7373997.stm

A Public Apology...

to the Rocker/Hipster who boarded the #8 bus the other morning and who I silently berated for his apparent nasty, foul body odor. It was about 8:45am and somewhere around John and Broadway a number of people boarded the bus and headed for the back where I was seated. Tragic Rocker/Hipster guy with shaggy hair, excessive piercings and be-chained wallet sits next to me and I'm overwhelmed by a wave of body funk. I curse him, sotto voce, and wince and begin breathing through my mouth for the next 15 blocks when I can escape from his barrage of crotch odor at my designated stop on Dexter. I curse not so sotto when he, too, gets off at that stop and boards the #26 with me for a journey to Fremont, but I do not sit anywhere next to him. I pray that I never see, or smell him again.

Today, I'm sitting in nearly the same spot at the same stop where Stinky Rocker boarded the other day, when a number of people board the bus and file past me on their way to seats at the very back. All of sudden, I'm hit with a Proustian reminder of the previous malodorous trip, but it's not the scent of Madeleines that I smell. Only, this time, my Rock Nemesis is not anywhere in sight but there IS a familiar face from the previous journey: a middle aged man, neatly groomed in a trench coat and carrying a briefcase and a professorial air about him. He had been seated across from me on the previous journey, and today he was standing directly behind me and the stench of unwashed genitalia was wafting from the confines of his knock-off Burberry. It hadn't been the seemingly obvious culprit, Rockstar McHipster with the nasty hair and ratty denim jacket, but the well-combed, Professor Stinky McGaypants who had odorifically raped me with his manstench.

So, I apologize to my Linda's/ChaCha/Comet hanging out friend and instead will focus my hate and loathing to the old Grampa guy who can remember to comb his hair but can't seem to get the hang of using a little Axe bodywash to clean the cooties off his cooter.

NOTE: when you type in "Stinky" to Google Images, you will get some truly horrifying results...

Mr Waters Goes To Washington...

...again, (I've lived here for 8 years and I think he's been through 4 or 5 times). This time, he's in town to perform the dog-n-pony lecture show he's been performing and perfecting for the last 30 years as a part of the Seattle Arts and Lectures Series at Benaroya Hall on Tuesday, June 3rd. (It's also a part of the Seattle International Film Festival). For more info, go here: http://www.lectures.org/waters.html

This time, I'm going; the dude ain't getting any younger and neither am I. And I love this photo of the Maestro; I've never seen it before. Judging by the picture, it must be at least 30 years old and it's John at his sexiest. He'e probably dreaming of a nekkid, skinny, dirty, redneck hippie or an Old Reliable model he met in San Francisco...

Jim Carrey to next play Stepin Fetchit in film bio, after completing work

in THIS abomination. Here's one of the first shots from the set of the new Jim Carrey film, "I Love You Phillip Morris" where he plays a gay prison inmate who falls in love with a fellow inmate and repeatedly escapes from prison to be with his love. It's based on a true story, but reality seems to have gone out the window when it came to the costume department...Yes, all gay men look like this; no gay man would dare leave the house without his ManTan and $10k of Versace on his back. I mean, C'MON, THIS IS 2008! This tired, stereotypical shit was fuckin' old 10 years ago and it hasn't improved with age. The thought of Jim Carrey mincing it up for two hours, drooling over Ewan McGregor and Rodrigo Santoro, looking like THIS is enough to induce projectile vomiting. FUCK Hollywood and FUCK the imbeciles who came up with this shit and FUCK the asstards who'll probably flock to this by the millions, especially dumbass fags who like this kind of shit.

Yeah, I know; I shouldn't judge the shit solely based on a couple photographs. But does anyone honestly think this is going to be very good?

Legs...if you've got'em, then know how to use'em...

Chad Hunt looks a little hungover in this picture...

The legs look fine, though.

I think this picture is from Michael Lucas and I'm assuming it's a promo for some filthy movie.

Cocky and Cheeky posters offend SPD, Nazi Liquor Control Board and Mayor McCheese

Eric Grandy reports over at Line Out on the Slog that cops came by ChopSuey on April 25th demanding they remove all of the posters for the monthly dance event, Comeback. The homoerotic posters traditionally feature vintage porn imagery of the 70's and 80's with strategically placed stickers over any offending genitalia. (Occasionally, they forget the stickers...) But, this month's design, shown here, doesn't even go the frontal route, but features a rear view portrait of some retro gay porn stud; it's cheeky but hardly pornographic. Cops claimed that the posting of such imagery violates state law, as mandated by the Liquor Control Board as outlined here, which was posted by Meinert in the comments section of this posting on LineOut:

WAC 314-52-015

General.

All liquor advertising shall be modest, dignified and in good taste and shall not contain:

(2) Any statement, picture, or illustration which promotes overconsumption.

(3) Any statement, picture, illustration, design, device, or representation which is undignified, obscene, indecent, or in bad taste.

(10) Any reference to any religious character, sign or symbol, except in relation to kosher wines or where such are a part of an approved label.

http://www.liq.wa.gov/enforcement/enforcementQA.asp

This is beyond lame. The SPD is bitching that they don't have enough manpower to do their jobs effectively, (which many people agree with, myself included), yet they're out waging war on naughty posters and noisy music venues. Meanwhile, robberies and break-ins in this town seldom get much more than a token investigation. And are the cops going to straight bars that have posters of scantily clad women, usually promoting some sort of beer or hard alcohol product? I kind of doubt it...

AND, live acts are raging that they can no longer drink booze at the venues they perform in since the Nazi Liquor Board decided that performers are employees of the venues they perform in, and thus aren't allowed to drink on premises. As a good friend of mine and drummer in a band pointed out to me this weekend, most bands seldom make ANY money from their gigs, or at best, a few dollars. By this rationale, shouldn't the venues be paying the bands Washington State minimum wage? And what about health benefits?

And most irritating to me, I think the Liquor Control Stormtroopers have come dowm hard, (pun intended) on the gay bars that show porn in their establishments. Last couple times I've been in the Eagle, they were showing, respectively, a non-hardcore promo for Falcon shown on an endless loop, and a children's spelling bee subtitled in French!

Before Mayor McCheese and his henchmen are done, Seattle will be about as exciting as a day at the Seattle Center Fun Forest...

Check out the original post at LineOut: http://lineout.thestranger.com/2008/04/im_sorry_officer_are_these_penises_too_l

Chris Stain at Ad Hoc Art

Opens May 2nd in Brooklyn/NYC in a show called "The Threat of Chance"

Go here for more info: http://www.adhocart.org/

Monstrously Fat Assed Jailbird sues about weight loss...'Law & Order' immediately begin drafting a script.

Broderick Laswell is a 20 year old man accused of killing a man with a dumbell last September. He sits in a jail cell in Benton County, Arkansas and like most men in his situation, he spends his days contemplating his future, or his lack of one. But, while most men would be fretting about their loss of liberty, or the perils of being anally raped in the shower, Mr Laswell occupies his time fretting about his weight loss. In the eight months that he has been incarcerated Laswell has dropped from 413 lbs to 308 lbs. He's now claiming that the jail is starving him to the point where he has spells of dizziness and that the 3000 calorie a day diet is inadequate for his needs and poses a serious health risk. He's also unhappy that they do not get hot meals and this lack of substantial servings of deliciously hot pot roast, mashed potatoes and shoo-fly pie has led to his recent filing of a law-suit in U.S District Court, where he claims that his civil-rights are being violated.

Yes, I do seem to recall that the right to copious amounts of tater-tot casserole, was one of the aims of the Civil-Rights Movement. I think Dr King had a dream about that, as well...

check out Smoking Gun: http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2008/0427081arkansas1.html?link=rssfeed

Solving a Lost Mystery

There was a minor brouhaha in the Lost fan community when it was discovered recently that actors Michael Emerson, Yunjin Kim and Alan Dale were filming scenes of Lost in London last month. Lots of speculation on what it meant, since the series has filmed 99% of the episodes, despite the fact that scenes take place all over world, on stages and locations in Oahu, (a tiny amount of filming, mainly second unit and effects work, has been done in L.A.). It puzzled me, as well, but I did about 3 minutes of detective work to find out that actor Alan Dale has a London stage committment as King Arthur in Monty Python's Spamalot and wasn't available to come to Oahu to film any scenes in his role as the seemingly evil, billionaire Charles Widmore for the post Writer's Strike episodes of Lost, which began filming in March. Since Dale's scenes were rather important for the storyline, but not extensive, it wasn't difficult to import a couple of actors and veteran Lost director Jack Bender to London and use a small local crew to film the scenes. We saw one of them last night; Ben (Emerson) confronting Widmore in his penthouse bedroom, which means there's at least one more scene to go, as actress Yunjin Kim (Sun) was also spotted filming in London with the Lost crew. Since Lost has previously and successfully shot London based scenes in Oahu, I don't see any other hidden meaning in this unusual location shoot.

Also, I really enjoyed last night's episode, despite a couple far-fetched moments, and anything Ben related is always a treat to watch. Michael Emerson is so very good in his role and his great ham acting has overshadowed every other performance on the show.

And Alan Dale is a very sexy 60 year old man...

Blue Obama

From Juxtapoz:

They’ve done it again. The 008 and Upper Playground have collaborated with Brooklyn-based Morning Breath to create a new limited screen-print of the duo's portrait of Obama. This sweet Morning Breath poster is part of an ongoing series of artist collaborations in support of Barack Obama's presidential campaign.
The Morning Breath limited screen-print will be signed and numbered by the artists and are made at a limited quantity of 200. Because the poster is a pre-sale item, it won't ship until May 21th; however, all proceeds from the sales of the Morning Breath Obama posters will go directly to creating more campaign t-shirts, posters and stickers by other artists in support of Obama's bid for President.

http://www.morningbreathinc.com/

https://www.stonehousedigital.com/stores/upperplayground/category/Posters+%26+Prints/

Gay Seattle Blogspot has two juicy stories:

1)City of Seattle offering grant money to orgs to help build floats for Pride, (originally posted on Alex Garcia's Blog: http://alexgarciainseattle.blogspot.com)

and, 2)Pike's Bar and Grill to open in the former 1200 Bistro location. Seattle Times columnist Nancy Leson originally reported this, which was picked up by the folks at Capitol Hill Triangle blog (http://chtriangle.blogspot.com/) who also have this to report:

1200 Bistro will reopen as Pike's Bar & Grill (1200 E. Pike) sometime in June under new management

Pike Street Fish Fry (925 E. Pike) to open in the old Frites space sometime soon - end of April?

Justin Neidermeyer, who sells handmade pasta under the Pian Pianino Pastificio Artigianale label at the Ballard Farmer's Market, has taken over the former Globe space to open Pancia Piena (1531 14th Ave.)

Also, check out Bill W.'s blog. The link is a permanent fixture over to the right; it's a fantastic info source for local gay stuff; MUCH better than the dreadful SGN!

Danielli at the Skylark with Motorik and Osaka Explosion

THIS Saturday, the 26th starting at 9pm and NO COVER!! Danielli is a great band, and the Skylark is a great venue in the Delridge neighborhood of West Seattle, (just don't miss the turnoff on the West Seattle bridge; it's easy to miss and then, you're screwed!) The Skylark has some good drinks and some great food, (tator tots and mac'n'cheese) and Danielli is one of Seattle's best bands, so get your butt over to West Seattle...no excuses!

There's a link to the Danielli MySpace page, permanently located on the menu to your right. Here's a link to The Skylark: www.skylarkclub.com

Poster design by Kerri McGar of Said Creates: http://www.saidcreates.com/

"Dining Out For Life" is TONITE!!

Just a reminder that "Dining Out for Life" the annual fundraiser for Lifelong Aids Alliance is back for its 15th year. Go to one of the 150 restaurants participating and a portion of your bill is donated to Lifelong AND you can make individual donations as well. Go to their website for a complete list of restaurants.

http://www.diningoutforlife.com/seattle/participating

Lost Geek Fest begins....NOW!

So far the 4th season of the most addictive and aggravating show on television has been pretty fan-fucking-tastic. Finally, there's some momentum building on the show and questions being answered and most of that is due to the show's new device of using Flash Forwards to show what happens to some of our Lost friends once they get off the island. Tonight, the first new, post-writers guild strike, (the first of 5 new hours) is set to air, entitled "The Shape of Things to Come" and, judging by the promos, the official announced guest star list, and Internet rumours and spoilers, it looks to be a damn, fine episode. In a nutshell, we know we are going to see the Freighter folk attack Locke's camp and there'll be gunfire, explosions and some serious implied peril involving Claire, Alex and Sawyer. The guest list includes Alan Dale as the seemingly rotten billionaire Charles Widmore, (but, does NOT include Mira Furlan as Rousseau who was last seen shot at the end of the previous episode). And Internet buzz tells us, that this will be a Ben flash forward which will include scenes set in the Middle East, and a possibility we'll learn more about Ben's post-Island life and why and how he got Sayid to act as his personal assassin. There's also talk that Ole Smokey, the mysterious smoke monster will make an appearance and we might find out some interesting info about the machinations of what makes Ole Smokey tick, AND it looks like a large chunk of Red-shirts, the background extras and Oceanic survivors who seldom get anything to say or do, will bite the bullet when Locke's camp gets attacked...Fun shit to be had, and remember that Lost has moved to TEN o'clock after the premiere of the dreadful Grey's Anatomy.

AND, to geek out some more, here's some other fascinating dope about the upcoming episodes. I'm not revealing any HUGE spoilers, (deaths or anything) but if you're super sensitive to knowing ANYTHING before hand, then stop reading right NOW.

The main news I'm going to report is listing the guest characters who will be making an appearance and there are some major surprises. I've already mentioned in another post that never aging Other Richard Alpert is back for at least ONE known episode, but the most interesting news I've heard is: Seth Norris, the pilot of Oceanic Flight 815, last seen in the pilot episode where he was killed by the smoke monster, will make a return! Actor Greg Grunberg, now best known as the fat, mind-reading cop on "Heroes" has reportedly been on the Lost set filming, what we are guessing to be, flashback scenes involving his character!! This has been pretty much confirmed, as has the rumors that Sun's daddy, billionaire automaker Mr Paik will make a return in a flashforward, AND the funeral director seen in last season's final episode presiding over a funeral attended by Jack, where we never learned the identity of the corpse, has filmed scenes as well. There's also a rumor that Dominic Monaghan's Charlie may be making another ghostly appearance, but at this point, it's a very vague sort of rumor.

And lastly, the fine folks at Hawaii Blog have reported that they are currently filming the homecoming of the Oceanic 6 which includes a huge number of extras, a major press conference scene and the presense of Lost family members like Hurley's parents, (Lillian Hunt and Cheech Marin) and Jack's mom, (Veronica Hamel). Last week, Hawaii Blog also reported the filming of another major scene involving all of the Oceanic Six which is believed to have been a scene involving a memorial service for Dr Christian Shephard, Jack's mysterious, drunken dad. For all of Hawaii Blog Lost related postings, go here: http://www.hawaiiweblog.com/category/lost

I'm done geeking out, now...back to your regularly scheduled programming.

oh, the top photo is an official Lost publicity pix from ABC from tonite's episode.
The Seth Norris picture is a screen capture I got off the Lostpedia site:
http://www.lostpedia.com

For the 7 people who wander to my blog, I apologize for the lack of posts...

I've felt like crap for the last couple of days and haven't felt like prattling on about little or nothing. To tide you over, and also express how I feel, here is a great piece of photography I found on Juxtapoz by a British pair of artists, Kate Friend and Rachel Freire. Here is their website:
http://www.folieadeux.net/

and yes, that really is Amy Winehouse and it's a deliberate echo of the work of that seminal artist Tretchikoff and his 1950 painting "Chinese Girl".

Austin Powers in Dead Horse Beater

Mike Myers is starting pre-production work on the 4th Austin Powers film and had this to say in the West Australian: http://www.thewest.com.au/default.aspx?MenuID=23&ContentID=68478

Meanwhile, while Mike has not confirmed the title for the forthcoming movie, he has revealed the film will be from the perspective of Dr Evil, Austin’s enemy, who is also played by Myers.

He explained: “There is a fully conceived idea for a fourth and I can just say that it’s from Dr Evil’s point of view, so if you balanced how much it was Austin with Dr Evil, it’s more Dr Evil than Austin”.

Is this movie really necessary?

Isn't Mike Myers sort of "done"?

At least it's a Dr Evil movie...I always enjoyed the bad Doctor much more than I enjoyed the idiotic Austin Powers. And please, no Fat Bastard or Goldmember.

But they can bring back Mini-Me. Verne Troyer needs the work.

Queerfest 2008

The SGN reported that the Seattle LGBT Center has announced that Queerfest will be greatly reduced from previous years and will not feature a parade or rally in Volunteer Park, but instead:

[Ivan Wright, newly elected co-president], explained the Center’s new plans for this year’s event. “What we’re trying to put together now is a Queerfest event throughout the month of June, which will be held & certainly at Neighbours—they’re one of the sponsors of the event—and beyond that I’m not sure. We’re still very early into this in terms of bringing it together, but we’re hoping to get several venues around Capitol Hill and beyond.”

Mr Savage comments on all this on Slog:

Capitol Hill and beyond? Beyond Capitol Hill? As in, “off Capitol Hill”? Excuse me for bringing this up, but the whole point of Queerfest—and the divisions it created, and the money it lost, and the community center is caused to implode—was to keep Seattle’s gay pride events on Capitol Hill where the shriekers insisted they belonged.

Hey, SGN! The LGBT Center is moving Queerfest—bits and pieces of it—off the hill! Where are the charges of betrayal and heresy? Where are the furious letters from the gay community’s outraged spokesdouches? What? No quotes from angry bar owners? No calls for the board of the LGBT Center to resign? What gives?

I also commented on Slog, part of which were replies to things that other people had posted:

1)Don't know about a Neighbor's payback. I think it's a situation where Neighbor's contribution has earned them the right to be an official sponsor of the Center's events for a very long time...
2)FYI: There are no paychecks at the center to protect or money being hoarded. They have very little money, (and could use a LOT more) and ONE part time paid co-ordinator. The Board is NOT paid, and the Center hasn't had a paid Director for months. The Board's decision to do a greatly scaled back Queerfest, was a sound decision to make, both financially and for the well-being of the community.
3)If they're ever able to put on a full scale Queerfest, I would personally recommend they DON'T do it concurrently with official Pride in June, but hold it in August and make it ARTS based instead of political. A queerer, artier version of Capitol Hill Block Party held on Pike Street and Cal Anderson Park with an emphasis on this city's vast pool of queer and queer friendly talent could be a huge success and a hell of a lot of fun.

Yes, I live with my brother.

In a nutshell: Neither one of us can afford to live alone, at least in a reasonable neighborhood, (meaning Capitol Hill) and neither one of us have any desire to live in a cheap studio apartment in Lake City or Rainier Valley.

Answers to frequently asked, and rather annoying questions:

1)yes, we are both gay. Other interesting tidbit: on our paternal side there are 8 cousins. Out of the 8, at least 4 are known or strongly suspected of being gay/lesbian.

2)no, we do not, have not and will not be sexual with each other; we didn't even play 'Doctor' with each other as kids. (I played samesex 'Doctor' with three separate boys as a pre-pubescent. As far as I am aware, all three are currently heterosexual). The gay brothers/fathers/cousins scenario seems to be a fantasy of many gay men, one flamed by excessive reading of First Hand magazine and excessive viewing of certain, cretinous porn films. As for the dimwittted straights who entertain this notion, I think a lot of them assume that all gay men are amoral monsters out casually fucking any same sex thing that gets in their path, regardless of age or biological relation. And whenever morons have raised this question with us, to our face, our standard response is, "Do you have a sexual attraction towards YOUR siblings or other family members?" The vast majority of people indignantly say, "Of course not!" The ones that reply "yes, I have the hots for my brother/sister!" we immediately shun and spit upon. To sum this up in a word: EWWWWWWWWW!!!!

3)yes, it was supposed to be a temporary thing. We moved up here at the end of 2000 and shared a horrid place in Lynnwood for a year then began looking for individual places to live in the city. Not long after we started looking, my brother called me while I was at work. He'd been looking on the Hill for apartments and had discovered that La Ocho, (a pseudonym), the fabulous old apartment building that we both loved, had a for rent sign for a 2 bedroom apartment. We had both dreamed of living at La Ocho; it was everything we wanted in an apartment; it was old and charming and had a huge courtyard and hardwood floors and a balcony and you could paint the walls and it was on the Hill but not down by noisy, dirty Broadway and it reminded us both of Mrs Madrigal's house from Tales of the City. After talking it over, we decided to go for it and put in an application and since neither one of us could afford to live there alone, and neither one of us really knew anyone in Seattle to roommate with, we'd continue to be roommates for another year until one of us could afford to move out and the other one could afford to live there alone, or find a roommate or trap a husband. Well, that was almost 6 years ago. A month after moving in, Chris lost his job. He had another within a few weeks, but still, it put us behind. A year later, I lost my job and it took a couple months to get another. These and other sundry financial disasters, have kept us about a paycheck away from homelessness for the last 6 years. I suppose the smart thing to do, would be to move out of our rather expensive apartment and find something cheaper, but affordable, attractive and convenient apartments are impossible to come by and to be honest, I'd rather live with my brother, in an apartment I love, in a building I love, in a neighborhood I love, than have to live by myself in a shitty apartment in a shitty building in a shitty,distant neighborhood where'd I'd constantly be commuting to and from. We have to make choices in life, and seldom is the choice you make free from any problems, complications or contradictions...

4)yes, it does hinder our individual romantic lives. Neither one of us is very comfortable entertaining gentlemen callers in our house while the other brother is home. (for that matter, when I've lived with non-relatives as roommates, I didn't much enjoy hearing their cries of passion in the middle of the night, either. Sex moans from strangers and film performers are amusing and/or erotic. Sex moans from relatives/friends are ooky and disturbing...) We either arrange to have the house to ourselves for such entertaining or more commonly, spend the night at our gentlemen friend's homes.

5)on the plus side, when you live with relatives, there are few secrets, you share a common bond/upbringing, and there's probably fewer problems about stuff and space issues. If you suspect a roommate of swiping your best tie, or borrowing a dvd without asking or never buying any milk, then you have to decide the best way to bring up the problem to deal with the situation. With relatives, you just break into their room and steal your stuff back or yell at them, making sure to bring up similar incidents from your common history and/or vowing to tell all your friends their deepest/darkest secrets: "Hey asshat, quit swiping my clothes without permission or I'm telling everyone about how you got sent to juvie for burning down that church when you were 12!"

6)that being said, I think we both dream of the day that we will be free of the tyranny of each others most irritating habits, like leaving bawled up Kleenixs all over the place during allergy season, or putting ridiculously large pieces of bulky trash in the bathroom trashcan, (old jeans or big shoe boxes) instead of just taking them to the dumpster/recycling bin in the alley, or the diametrically opposed ways we each do dishes or the endless piling of books all over the house or the careless stacking of loose dvds/cds next to the dvd player or computer or the irritating habit of not cleaning the frother on the cappuchino machine, or....